Does Attitude of one determine our fate? or rather by influence of external factors that contribute to our fate. Siong departure had initiate me to further think about this issue.
Born in a big family of cousins of similar age-group, sub-consciously we may tends to compare with one another. Even our parents did that when we were younger in our academics too. As we progress into our teens, where materialistic things become the priority, in all aspect from shoes, to jeans,watch.....etc
'The grass on the other side is always greener' as saying goes. We are never satisfied with what we have, instead we are envy of our cousins, friends " Why his parents can buy for him this, why mine cant!"
When i was 18 years old, excitement roar in me of getting a car licence and hopefully dad can work out a car of any models. The thought of it really makes you great...But those days, financially our family are not doing well, then come again thought of getting a Class 3 seems unachievable, not to mention 'a car' , i can simply day dream of it. So motorbikes was the next cheaper and affordable alternatives, so got my licence, got my bike, hangout with the bikers gang, on the road showing off our machines....at times asking myself why cousins of mine licence and cars are 'sponsor' by their parents but not mine! Frustrating, Jealous,Envy, whatever feelings start to fill me...so to feel better i always self-motivate that i work hard to own my machines, proud of it. Sour grapes, you may think....
10 years later, it seems that what i went through, Siong is going through too. .The only difference is that i strongly disagree buying a car for him even we can afford, i want him to be independent. He argued why cousins of his generation own cars, their family buy this, paid that and he gotta work for himself. Message was clear from me: if he cant afford, don't drive. very simple.
Like me, he too opt for the two-wheelers, Like me, he hangout with groups of bikers, Like me, he roam the road with his terrificing machine, But UNLIKE me i survived, Siong did not make it.....he did not...
SO whether his attitude or the machine fails him, i have no answer.
Siong, in one way or another, we are proud that you work hard for your bike.
Kor Kor
Born in a big family of cousins of similar age-group, sub-consciously we may tends to compare with one another. Even our parents did that when we were younger in our academics too. As we progress into our teens, where materialistic things become the priority, in all aspect from shoes, to jeans,watch.....etc
'The grass on the other side is always greener' as saying goes. We are never satisfied with what we have, instead we are envy of our cousins, friends " Why his parents can buy for him this, why mine cant!"
When i was 18 years old, excitement roar in me of getting a car licence and hopefully dad can work out a car of any models. The thought of it really makes you great...But those days, financially our family are not doing well, then come again thought of getting a Class 3 seems unachievable, not to mention 'a car' , i can simply day dream of it. So motorbikes was the next cheaper and affordable alternatives, so got my licence, got my bike, hangout with the bikers gang, on the road showing off our machines....at times asking myself why cousins of mine licence and cars are 'sponsor' by their parents but not mine! Frustrating, Jealous,Envy, whatever feelings start to fill me...so to feel better i always self-motivate that i work hard to own my machines, proud of it. Sour grapes, you may think....
10 years later, it seems that what i went through, Siong is going through too. .The only difference is that i strongly disagree buying a car for him even we can afford, i want him to be independent. He argued why cousins of his generation own cars, their family buy this, paid that and he gotta work for himself. Message was clear from me: if he cant afford, don't drive. very simple.
Like me, he too opt for the two-wheelers, Like me, he hangout with groups of bikers, Like me, he roam the road with his terrificing machine, But UNLIKE me i survived, Siong did not make it.....he did not...
SO whether his attitude or the machine fails him, i have no answer.
Siong, in one way or another, we are proud that you work hard for your bike.
Kor Kor
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